You will always, unreservedly and unashamedly come second. Just putting this out there. He’ll have more intense relationships with his bandmates than he’ll ever have with you. You’ll be dropped at a moment’s notice when his guitarist is ‘feeling meh’, or his bassist’s gerbil died…or he’s been offered a plus one to a gig where he HATES the band but there might be a schmoozable contact there. If you complain about this, you’re massively selfish, FYI. You will be tired. You have a nine-to-five. Heck, if we didn’t need to be at work at nine, we’d also be tempted to sip rioja in the kitchen at 2am on a Tuesday night, chewing the cud over whether Jeff Buckley’s finest hour was prophetic in the wake of his unexpected demise. Your desire to be in bed before 1am on a schoolnight will make you feel squarer than Spongebob and you can forget any notion that sex will happen within the confines of when “The Man” dictates you should have it.
Thou Shalt Not Date a Musician
No musician is ever going to stay in one place for long. This is — there are more than enough ways to stay in touch: phone calls, texts, Skype — but remember he is doing his job and fulfilling his dream. You should be too. Find a happy medium in long distance communication. These guys are his best friends, his coworkers, his confidantes.
Or been there, done that? When dating anyone, there will always be pros and cons and different kinds of experiences. Well, I asked around and witnessed a lot. Especially when they share that talent with you. I never dated a musician. And of course, witnessing their hard work and sleepless nights turning into a beautiful set. Booming with pride for your significant other. Even better, you may even be part of the entire songwriting process or music making in the first place.
And maybe, just maybe, the song is all about you! With whomever you are with, there will be brand new experiences.
LIFESTYLE: When your partner is a musician
As a musician who has also dated fellow musicians drummers, lead guitarists, lead singers, songwriters , I felt the need to address some common misconceptions and truths. Piss a musician off and good luck, my dear. The locals, and heaven forbid, internationals now know what an ass you are. Hint: those are our best songs.
You look at the kind of girls who date musical geniuses, the Bianca Jaggers, Kate Mosses, Blake Fielder-Civils of the world, and you think, “what.
We all have types. Some of us go for the nerdy, smart ones. Some go for the bad boys with the tattoos and motorcycles. Some go for the completely unavailable. Some go for the too available. Of course, I have a type as well.
14 things you need to know before dating a musician
Archives RSS. Sign up for our newsletters Subscribe. Even as a girl , I wholeheartedly defend the no-girlfriends rule. That goes for boyfriends, too.
We know it’s tempting to date the drummer you met at the Arcade Fire and even if he does score a huge record deal there’s no saying that.
Join Riverfront Times Press Club. Because No News is Bad News. Musicians have an uncanny ability to send shivers down the pants of even their most a-sexual of onlookers. Musicians uphold, perhaps even created, the “cool affect. I spent the last year head-deep in that club as a girlfriend-of-a-musician — these are the lessons I quickly learned. All of these tips work just as well for boyfriends of female musicians too, by the way.
Or boyfriends of boyfriends, or girlfriends of girlfriends — whatever turns you on, as they say. Your boyfriend is a wonderful musician. He works very hard, but he is not always better than the rest of his band. He does not need to branch out and gain more recognition and individual praise from the music community.
Six Tips for Dating a Musician
According to the movies, dating a musician instantly transports you to this adventurous and exciting world where the music never stops and the party never ends. You’re suddenly hanging out in cool places, surrounded by cool people who talk about cool things “Remember that time when we were on tour Unfortunately or maybe fortunately for us musicians , the movies don’t show the not-so-glamorous side.
After all, loving a music man ain’t always what it’s supposed to be If you didn’t get that reference, we’re already off to a rocky start. We probably have opposite schedules. I work nights and weekends.
Thanks to Audrey Watts and Dave from the Tits In the Bad Ideas Hall of Fame, dating a musician ranks with having one more drink for the road.
Subscriber Account active since. While Musk has long been known to date successful and high-profile women, he and the musician made a seemingly unlikely pairing. Shortly before they walked the red carpet together, Page Six announced their relationship and explained how they met: over Twitter, thanks to a shared sense of humor and a fascination with artificial intelligence.
Since they made their relationship public in May , the couple has continued to make headlines: Grimes for publicly defending Musk and speaking out about Tesla , and Musk for tweeting that he wants to take Tesla private , sparking an SEC investigation. But shortly after Musk’s run-in with the SEC, Grimes and Musk unfollowed each other on social media, igniting rumors that the pair had broken up.
However, the couple appeared to have reconnected soon after.
Pay attention to the next line. Here are some of the most common false truths about musicians when it comes to dating, especially for up-and-coming musicians :. This was fun, but really just part of the show! Sadly, the groupies are trying to weasel their way into the VIP at Gansevoort to get a glimpse at Trey Songz, not come to your show at some hole-in-the-wall joint. But enough of all this groupie talk.
date. 2.) Learn to communicate well. This one is a big deal. But the title “ the band wife/blogger/artist/singer/cat lover/pizza fanatic/theology.
When I was a teenager, I use to fantasize about dating a musician. I love music and used to go to shows a lot, and musicians seemed like the best kind of artists and poets. Music is poetry, craftsmanship, technique, stage presence and so much more! Primarily he plays an upright bass in a jazz band that plays around town, and is an audio engineer for some of the shows coming through town.
While I am supportive of him and his career, there is no denying how NOT frugal it is to be a musician. Holy heck, the equipment is expensive! The upright bass alone is several thousand dollars. Sound recording equipment and software can also add up pretty quickly. New bass strings, new tuners, new software, new mics, new gear, etc.